Clever, analytical, critical; convoluted mental processes; often fond of detailed work; integration & balance; usually give ‘right’ service. Conversely: the put-upon martyr; the perfectionist, obsessed by details.
The Fourteenth letter of the Alphabet. Energy Frequency No. 14. (including matrix suggestions and my own musings) The physical-balancing aspect of the Universal Love Essence:- detoxifying, cleansing, eliminating and draining toxins via liver, kidneys, bowels, skin and lungs. (How this relates to “N,” the 14th Letter will be discussed under the “Letter-Number Table 5.“- 1+4=5. on the Header Menu Bar – yet to be added.)
“N’s” are the detail-junkies of the alphabet.
If you’re not the above – the “N” in your name could be there to help you pay attention to details! Or you might be orderly, systematic and numbers-oriented like the musicality of Johann Sebastian Bach (who had three “N’s” in his name).
The presence of “N” also demands BALANCE!!
Often the obsession with surface details hides the need for balancing the self. Usually much personal-work is necessary to reconcile inner extremes. First you bring yourself into balance, then you’re fit to help others.
In the other extreme: “N” becomes one of the ‘inward-turning’ mental-letters making the personality reclusive and introverted.
More “N” extremes:
1) Physical. Some “N’s” fluctuate between neglecting and wrecking their bodily health; may compulsively over-exercise, yo-yo-ing between junk-feeding and dieting, or trying periodic health food kicks; will flip between living like a slob – or rushing after every speck of dust; from being lazy – to a dynamo of energy and non-stop activity.
2) Mental. Some swing from mental languishing to analytical cleverness and nit-picking perfectionism; also a tendency to “second-guessing” everything and everyone! In general, when misunderstood, “N’s” can become quite offended and will go to great pains to clarify themselves.
3) Emotional. Some polarize from helpless, self-pitying victim-pathos to “attack-mode” – criticizing and blaming everything and everyone in sight!
In each of these polarities, the middle road must be discovered. Because “N” goes to extremes, it has the power to reconcile extremes.
The “N” martyr complex. Many “N’s” suffer from the “soft-touch,” they’re selfless to a fault and so compassionate (or striving to please), they can’t say “No” when someone wants something. Saying “No” for a large number of adults has to be re-learned – they may have had it knocked out of them very thoroughly in their childhood. Furthermore, it involves rendering right service – not egotistical or martyred service.
Astrologically “N” equates to Virgo and in that system it governs “the guts” and how we complete the digestion process and expel waste. So – all you “N’s” falling under the co-dependent Martyr categories – in order to give right-service you should always follow your gut-reaction and learn to put yourself first. If your internal ‘gut-reaction’ to someone else’s request or demand is a “No, I don’t wanna do it” - YOU SAY “NO!” Also don’t try and justify yourself or give excuses – just, say firmly “I get a ‘no’ on it.” End of conversation. And forget about apologizing because that implies guilt! If it’s something they always ‘stick you with’ and expect you’ll keep doing and they say “But you’ve always done it for us before!” – you reply - “Not anymore – I’m out of the picture.” …..Smile sweetly on exit!
You may lose a lot of friends – (martyrs have a lot of friends) – but do you want to belong to your self or other people’s expectations??
The balancing, aspect of “N” may just be the challenge to heal yourself!!
Norman Cousins (with three “N’s”) healed himself of a lethal disease by developing “laughter therapy.” (Laughter releases healing chemicals in the brain.) Read his classic books: “Anatomy of an Illness” and “The Healing Heart.”
Some Other Famous Balancers:
Norman Rockwell (1894-1978): much loved American artist and illustrator; sought to bring a sense of balance to society through his perceptive paintings of ordinary (and extraordinary) people – so warm and insightful, they bring tears to the eyes, or a laugh to the heart. Also fondly remembered for 317 “The Saturday Evening Post” covers; he painted only idealized details of American family life.
Danny Kay: outstanding actor-comedian from the mid 20th Century; great servant of the people (especially children); during his last 30 years he was ambassador-at-large for UNICEF; also masterfully healed with laughter. (Rent some of his classic films, “The Secret Life of Walter Mitty,” “The Inspector General,” “Hans Christian Anderson” – and enter another world!)
Norman Vincent Peale: (four “N’s”) began the public’s fascination with self-improvement; his most popular book “The Power of Positive Thinking” sold more than 20 million copies in 41 languages. (Casting off the self-criticism of “N” and replacing it with positive affirmation.)
Ralph Nader: author, lawyer, social visionary; tireless in pursuing safer lives for US citizens; detailed analytical and critical research makes him the nation’s foremost consumer advocate. His book “In Pursuit of Justice,” contains a large collection from his nationally syndicated column.
Balanced “N:” the Balancers; experts at self-management; people of great integrity, above reproach, high personal standards; will listen inwardly to higher Mind before speaking; frequently combine linear logical analysis with intuitive thinking; serve with compassionate awareness instead of willy-nilly “rescuing” or “helping” others. Sometimes the most compassionate thing to do is nothing–the other person may need certain challenging experiences for their own growth.
The Serving “N’s” will observe in what ways humanity needs to come into balance, then gravitate to a particular aspect of service they feel attracted to – subsequently dedicating their lives to it. Occasionally, the need to serve comes after great personal healing – I once knew a man with “N” doubled in the middle of his name (double trouble!); he recovered from a serious drinking problem to dedicate his life to rescuing and empowering other problem drinkers.
“N” when doubled and also the Focus (central letter) of the name, presents a compelling challenge for us to balance ourselves – and when successful – has the power to bring others into balance.
Unbalanced “N:” failures at self-management; serious childhood abandonment issues; a Martyr complex; frequent moods and depression; super-critical perfectionism – yet cannot take being the butt of criticism. When on the receiving end of criticism they immediately erect defensive walls, behind which they either whimper weak excuses or vociferously protest and justify themselves.
Weak “N’s:” ruled by compulsion; emotionally vulnerable; frequently hide their real feelings; always taking offense and always complaining; attracting constant criticism and put-downs (to which they lash back with self-pitying diatribes). The more dramatic ones – the railing and angry “Oh-poor-me’s” glory in their misfortunes!
Finally, the ultimate martyrs, the determined to fail-ers (with full victim mentality) – just give up – sinking into self-rejection and neuroses.
When “N” is in YOUR NAME: it’s how you handle and deliver criticism, it’s how you balance your polarities and use your brilliant mind.
SUMMARY: the analytical perfectionist, critical, clever, balancing, compulsive; attentive to detail; service to others; healer; yo-yo moods; the martyr.
Famous “N” names: Mental acuity, an eye for meticulous detail, critical analysis, desire for balance and service to others…or one who destroys balance; a burden of criticism, a martyr complex.
Alfred Bernhard Nobel: 19th Century Swedish philanthropist, businessman and chemist; invented dynamite and nitroglycerine high explosives; his horror at their destructive use caused him to give his vast riches to establish the enduring Nobel Prizes; Anais Nin: analytical, mystical writer; recognized as a major literary figure; wrote a woman’s vision of the universe; some titles: Under a Glass Bell, Winter of Artifice, The House of Incest; Sir Isaac Newton: far reaching, ground breaking 17th Century physicist-mathematician; created his own system of calculus, investigated the nature of light, wrote first treatise on gravitation Principia Mathematica in 1687; Walther Hermann Nernst: 1864-1941 (Four “N’s”), German researcher and physicist; did important studies on the nature of free radicals, discovered the 3rd law of thermodynamics, won Nobel Prize for chemistry; Napoleon Bonaparte: (1796-1821) (three “N’s”) self-proclaimed French Emperor; political and military genius; unsurpassed master of detail; considered the most brilliant military strategist and general of his day; his law codification remains the basis of French civil law; Rudolf Nureyev: meticulous and precise Russian ballet dancer and choreographer; after his 1961 defection from the Soviet Union, he astonished and charmed the West with his breathtaking dancing (a paradox of balance while appearing to defy gravity!); Nelson Mandela: the first president of South Africa; served his people while striving to keep his newly liberated country integrated and in balance; Nikola Tesla: brilliant electrical engineer and inventor; key research included transformers, telephone and telegraphic systems; also discovered the first practical way of using alternating electrical current; Paul Newman: American actor, entrepreneur and philanthropist; gave proceeds of all his products to various charities and for education.
Special “N” Note: Carolus Linnaeus: 18th Century biologist and Swedish Professor of Medicine, with a doubled “N” in his name, the first to design a system, still used today, that classified all living things.